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A good kiss can make all your nerve endings tingle or may open the door to lasting love. We often use a kiss to gauge the potential for a bed mate, or a life mate.

 

 What’s in a Kiss?
It’s a way of testing the waters, sampling the goods — before you commit.

It all starts with a kiss. Whether long and sensual or short and sweet, a kiss is the ultimate form of sensual expression.  If done right, a kiss can light the flames of passion; if done wrong, it can bring a delicious infatuation to a less-than-rousing end. A kiss is the doorway to what comes next.

Many women will tell you that a kiss is the ultimate deal-breaker. A good kiss is both a matter of personal style and what feels right for the moment. But what is it about a smooch that can send you to the stars or smack you right back down to earth?
A kiss puts you in close proximity with a partner’s skin and scent. Skin is the delivery site for pheromones — the undetectable chemicals of attraction that work through our sense of smell. The kiss delivers us to the most primal parts of our minds, which may be why there is so much potential for satisfaction and disappointment.

For many, kissing is one of few sexual acts they’ve engaged in with a wide range of people. Again, since a kiss can make or break an attraction, it is often the case that we end up kissing far more people than we bed. It’s the supreme technique of sampling the goods with little emotional or physical investment.
So just how much experience are most of us getting? A nationwide survey conducted by Close-Up toothpaste got up close and personal with 2,200 men and women to shed some light on our modern kissing habits. It seems that men and women are definitely getting their practice in: The average woman kisses 17.5 men before she settles down and the average man kisses 24 prospects before he locks lips forever. Women report their first kiss at age 14, while men get a bit of a slower start between the ages of 16 and 18.

Speaking of close-up, the French kiss is listed as most men and women’s favorite; however, don’t thank the French for introducing it to us. The term actually entered the English language in 1923, in honor of the très   passionate country. I suspect the French kiss was around long before anything — or anyone — French.

The study also considered geographic differences in kissing trends. Evidently the best place to live if you are an active kisser is in the Northwest, where people exchange more kisses per day (5.5) than anywhere else in the country.  The Northeasterners are the most confident in their kissing abilities.  Wondering about the Midwest?  It seems they’re the most honest in relationships.  They’re more likely than any other region to confess to a partner after making out with someone else — not to mention that they’re late bloomers. Compared to the rest of the nation, the first kiss of a Midwesterner comes somewhere between 16 and 18 years old, about five years later than the smoochers in Hawaii.  So if you want a good kiss-filled vacation, you know where to go — but don’t forget to brush your teeth!

A Kiss Can Be Bliss…………

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When it comes to food, what’s good for your health may also be good for your sex life!

The mouth is an erogenous zone. Eating is a sensual prelude to what comes next, and a kiss is a passionate sampling of each other’s taste.

The choices we make when hungry nourish the sexual appetite too. Choosing the right food (and drink) primes your body for optimal sexual function in general. Junk food makes the body feel sluggish, while too many simple carbs can deplete your energy. Eating frequent, nutritious meals is the best way to support your libido; it’ll keep your body fit and your mind lively.

Simple Solutions to Rev Up Your Sexual Engines  Three small changes can make a big difference: Choose whole grains instead of refined white-flour bread and crackers, increase your intake of good fats (such as nuts, avocados, olive oil) while reducing bad fats (like butter and fatty meats), and eat smaller quantities of food every three hours. Your tastes will adjust over time, and so will your libido.

However, eating shouldn’t be all about discipline. Food is one of the greatest sensual pleasures we have. Chocolate was recently discovered by Italian researchers to trigger the samebrain chemicals as an orgasm and is now a sexy-food mascot. Taste, like the other senses, stirs our sexual center.

It’s Not Just What You Eat, but How You Eat It  When you eat sensually, enjoying each bite, and appreciating a food’s unique texture and flavor, you transform a daily ritual into seduction at its finest. The mouth is a portal to pleasure. Try having a sensual picnic with your partner instead of your usual date-night fare. Sit on the floor, rather than at the table, and let fingers be your utensils. Foods that are colorful and sensual like strawberries, papayas, and avocados evoke the feminine mystique. Bananas, carrots, and celery evoke his. Be sure to include a variety of textures and flavors for the whole experience: salty and sweet, crunchy and soft.

Eating with your partner is a ritual of connecting and communication and can conclude with great sex after dinner. But there’s no reason to skip dessert. Bring some honey, hotfudge, or whipped cream into the bedroom. I’ll leave it to you to decide where to put it. Just remember that it can serve to guide your partner’s attention to an overlooked area!

There’s More Than One Way You Taste  Let’s face it, you can’t talk about sex without thinking of ways we taste each other as well. When things start sizzling between the sheets, many worry about flavors. You want to be a delicacy yourself and savor your partner in every way, too. But is there a recipe for this sort of deliciousness?

As it turns out, what’s good for general health is also good for sexual health. To be a tasty morsel yourself, you must make the right choices when eating. Lots of water is the main ingredient. It detoxifies and cleanses the body, helping to keep every part in peak condition. Go easy on alcohol, nicotine, and coffee, which can be taste spoilers. And finally, fruits and vegetables lend a sweetness that is anything but sour or bitter. Just stay away from the asparagus!

 

Source: Dr. Laura Berman

Matters of the Mouth Figure Prominently in Sex