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Relationships: We all have them. Relationships with our friends, family members, cohorts, in our marriage, bf/gf, fiance, fellow church members, domestic partnerships, “it’s complicated”.
What are the key things you think it takes to make relationships grow in a healthy way?
What are the key things that make relationships fall apart?
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I was diagnosed with MS in 1987 and didn’t know there are different types of fatigue, did you?
1). Primary Fatigue – due to the MS itself
2). Secondary Fagitue – compensation for factors that affect persons with MS.
Types of Primary Fatigue:
* Motor fatigue or poor endurance
Currently I’m experiencing Motor Fatigue and Poor Endurance. I’ve been going to physical therapy and occupational therapy for the past month and it doesn’t seem to make a difference.
Making simple changes that either cut out or burn off extra calories will add up to weight loss over the course of a year.
If you’re struggling with weight loss, then you already know it’s the little things that add up — the “little bit more” at the dinner buffet, the “little bit too tight” feeling of your clothes. But what if you also knew about the little things you could do every day to increase your weight- loss success? Here they are.
10 Steps to Speed Weight Loss
1. Switch up your snacks. “First of all, watch mindless snacking,” says Emily Banes, RD, clinical dietitian at the Houston Northwest Medical Center in Houston, Texas. “[Those calories] really add up.” Instead of grazing on the baked goodies in the break room, have a plan for healthy snacks that combines a little bit of fat, protein, and crunch, such as apple slices smeared with peanut butter. If you are counting calories, doing the math may help: a pound is the equivalent of 3,500 calories, so if you can cut 100 calories out of your day, you will lose a pound in just over a month.
2. Cut out high-calorie condiments and sugars. “Instead of getting a coffee with sugar, try Splenda,” says Banes. Likewise, try mustard on your burger or sandwich instead of mayonnaise, and order your salad dressing on the side so that you can control the amount you eat.
3. Hoof it. “Exercise is key,” says Banes. People who manage at least 150 minutes of activity a week are more successful with weight loss. Take the stairs instead of the elevator or park a bit farther from your destination so you have to walk. This will add extra exercise — and burn more calories.
4. Anticipate temptation. If you know you can’t resist freshly baked brownies, don’t keep a mix in your pantry. Also, if you are going somewhere with friends and family and know you’ll have a hard time controlling yourself, make a decision before you get there about what you will eat — and stick to it.
5. Try the veggie-loaded plate method. Banes recommends using your plate to guide your food selection and portion sizes. One half of the plate should be vegetables. The other side can be split between protein and starchy carbohydrates. If you decide to get a second plate, says Banes, it had better be all vegetables. People who eat five or more servings of fruits and vegetables a day are more successful with weight loss.
6. Skip the fast food. A study of 1,713 adults who have been successful with weight loss demonstrated that people who eat at fast-food restaurants less than twice a week have greater success with their weight loss. “If you do eat fast foods, don’t supersize it,” says Banes, and try to opt for a salad, small portions, or “get baked, not fried.”
7. Limit the calories you drink. While most people understand sugary sodas add calories, Banes sees a misconception when it comes to sweet tea and juices. Sweetened tea is no less calorie-dense than soda, and you’d be better off eating the fruit than drinking the juice, advises Banes.
8. Be accountable. Whether you have a diet buddy you check in with, a support group, or a food diary, keeping track of your daily food choices takes only a few minutes, but can double your weight-loss success.
9. Order smaller portions. Data suggests that people who order smaller portions or share a plate at restaurants are more successful with weight loss. Banes recommends ordering the lunch portion, an appetizer, or a children’s meal — or put up to half your meal into a doggy bag before you begin eating.
10. Acknowledge your success. People who believe they can succeed with weight loss actually do lose weight more successfully. How do you gain this confidence? Take a moment to pat yourself on the back when you make healthy choices and achieve your short-term goals.
These small changes, all of which can easily be made, will quickly add up to more pounds lost over time.
By Madeline Vann, MPH
Medically reviewed by Lindsey Marcellin, MD, MPH
As many of you know I’m Jennifer L. Martin Author of Blue Fingers Brass Knuckles, and currently writing a second book titled Relationships: Breaking the Barriers. Through the past few years I’ve been on a journey that lead me to start The Health Connection where I blog about health issues. I also started my own blog talk radio show called The Health Connection.
My publisher is honoring me this month and has written up a very nice two-part story about me, which I would love to share with all of you. I hope this gives you better insight about me and the work that I have done, to make our world a better place.
Please share your thoughts below.
You’re busy, she’s busy… there’s every reason not to talk about your family’s health history. But it couldn’t be more important, and here’s how to do it.Uncle Joe had heart disease, cousin Marsha had breast cancer, Grandma Gertie was sharp as a tack until age 102. Think you know everything about your family’s health history? There’s a good chance you don’t. A recent National Cancer Institute study found that people frequently report incorrect information about their family history of cancer to their doctors. Important details about medical conditions like this may not have been passed down if your family never explicitly discussed it, and in some cases, older generations may even have swept health issues like cancer, miscarriage, or Alzheimer’s under the rug. While most family members probably have some knowledge of your brood’s collective health history, women often tend to be the main documenters, so starting a conversation with your mom is a great jumping-off point. (It’s also a good idea to talk to your mother-in-law about your husband’s family history, which could impact your own kids’ health one day.)
In addition to gleaning crucial — even lifesaving — information, you may also find that these talks can serve as a springboard for meaningful moments and create memories that will last a lifetime. Here, nine topics everyone should ask about, and some sample questions to get the conversation going.
How to Start a Health History Conversation
Yes, there’s lots of material to cover here — we are talking generations, after all — and not all of it is easy-peasy to talk about, but don’t feel like you have to wade through a huge checklist in one session. This can be a months-long project. After an initial chat with your mom, you may find yourself wanting to speak to other relatives — grandparents, if they’re still around, or aunts — for more information. If your mom feels uncomfortable or even thinks you’re prying, don’t push it. Talk about the things that she is comfortable with, and keep your ears open. Unexpected details could come out in seemingly unrelated stories.
As for record-keeping, consider making video or audio recordings, or take notes and save them on your computer later (back up the document on a CD or zip drive). You can also document your health history in an online personal health record, like the U.S. Surgeon General’s My Family Health Portrait. Be sure to keep your information where it will be safe for future generations, who can maintain it. “Remember, family history is ever-changing,” says Muin J. Khoury, MD, PhD, director of public health genomics at the U.S. Centers for Disease Prevention and Control. “Every generation adds to it — your family history today is different from what it was even ten years ago.”
Have a Heart-to-Heart
While physical inactivity, poor eating habits, and smoking raise your risk for heart disease, genes can play a large part, too. “If a patient reports a family history of premature cardiac disease — before age 55 for men or 65 for women — he or she also has a higher risk, and I may be more aggressive about treating issues such as cholesterol, blood pressure, or smoking cessation,” says Jessica Bartfield, MD, internal medicine specialist at Loyola University Health System’s Gottlieb Memorial Hospital. If you know that heart disease, which includes heart attacks, angina, tachycardia, arrhythmia, high blood pressure, and cholesterol, runs in your family, that makes managing your own lifestyle risk factors, such as not smoking, staying at a healthy weight, and getting your blood pressure and cholesterol checked, even more important.
Ask about: How common is heart disease in our family? Did anyone ever complain about shortness of breath, chest pain, or palpitations? (These could be signs of undiagnosed heart disease.)
Raise Questions About Cancer
Cancer may be more common in your family than you think, in part because the disease wasn’t so openly acknowledged a generation or two ago. “There were some types of cancers that people simply didn’t talk about,” says Dr. Khoury. While the cause of many cancers can’t always be pinned down, certain types — namely breast cancer, ovarian cancer, colon cancer, pancreatic cancer, and prostate cancer — are especially heritable. If you know certain cancers run in your family tree, it’s that much more crucial to stay on top of regular visits and tests. Your doctor may recommend starting screenings, such as colonoscopies or mammograms, much earlier than what’s recommended for the general population.
Ask about: How many people have had cancer in our family, and what kinds? Did you ever have a cancer scare? What did Great-Grandma Ruth really die from?
Bring Up Fertility, Pregnancy, and Menopause
For some women, it never gets easier to talk about “the birds and the bees,” so topics like fertility, pregnancy, and other women-specific issues can still be hard to broach. “Some health matters — like menopause or miscarriage — had stigmas attached to them generations ago,” says Khoury. Experts suggest that some fertility and pregnancy problems, such as difficulty conceiving, miscarriage, and preterm birth, may be inherited. (However, age is the number-one factor that affects fertility, so your female relatives’ childbearing history doesn’t automatically become yours). Medications Mom took — such as diethylstilbestrol (DES), a hormone once used in estrogen-replacement therapy — could impact your own fertility. Conditions like uterine fibroids and endometriosis are also thought to have genetic components. And evidence suggests that you’ll enter menopause around the same age your mom did.
Ask about: Does infertility, miscarriage, or preterm birth run in our family? Did you ever take any medications that could impact my fertility? When did you — and other women in our family — enter menopause?
Shed Light on Mental Illness
Mental health issues can be sensitive and difficult to broach in some families, but it’s important to know if things like depression run in your family tree. “Many mental health conditions are now thought to be at least partly heritable, including depression and bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, and ADHD,” says Heather Wittenberg, PsyD, a Hawaii-based clinical psychologist. “That’s not to say you should panic if such conditions run in your family, but you should be aware so that in case symptoms come up, you can get help as soon as possible.” Children of people with depression, for example, are three times more likely to develop the condition themselves, says Wittenberg.
Ask about: How common is depression or other mental health issues in our family? Did anyone in our family ever commit suicide or try to? Grammy seemed to think that other people talked to her when there was no one around — was she schizophrenic? People used to say Uncle Frank was kind of odd — what did that mean?
Don’t Forget to Talk About Memory
Losing your memory is common fear among older adults — and if such problems run in your family, you should pay attention. People with parents or siblings with Alzheimer’s disease face a higher risk themselves, especially if relatives developed dementia before age 65, which could point to a familial gene mutation. If you know that dementia runs in your family, it’s all the more important to try to age-proof your brain now. A growing body of research shows that taking care of your overall health — maintaining normal blood pressure and cholesterol, not smoking, and having an active social life — can help keep your mind sharp over time. Swedish researchers recently found that people who were overweight at midlife had a greater than 70 percent increased risk of dementia when they were older.
Ask about: Has anyone in our family had Alzheimer’s or dementia? People used to say Grandma was “senile” — does that mean she had Alzheimer’s? When did Grandpa start losing his memory? Have you ever worried about your own memory?
Learn About Longevity
Will you live to blow out 100 candles on your birthday cake? “Longevity also runs in families,” says Khoury. “And while it’s a changing parameter — lifespans are longer than they used to be — it helps put more pieces in the puzzle if you know the ages at which relatives passed away.” Your relatives’ longevity — or lack thereof — can offer some clues about diseases that perhaps went undiagnosed. For example, if three relatives died by age 50, that could indicate an underlying medical condition in your family, which you should let your physician know about.
Questions to Ask: Who was the youngest person to die in our family (and from what)? Who was the oldest? At what age have most people in our family passed away?
Find Out Where You Come From
Even if you filled out a family tree during elementary school, odds are your facts on some of those branches are a little hazy by now. So take the time to sit down with your mom (and dad too) and find out where your relatives come from — the answers may surprise you. And besides the sheer awesomeness of hearing their immigration stories, it’s important to know where your family hails from because some health issues are more prevalent in certain ethnicities or geographic areas. For example, the blood disorder thalassemia is more prevalent in people of Mediterranean descent, and people of African backgrounds are more at risk for sickle-cell anemia. Knowing about such genetic disorders is important when you’re planning to have a baby, for example, because you and your partner’s mutations could be passed along to your unborn child.
Ask about: Where were your parents and grandparents born? Where did our family live before they came to America? Did they live near any place or facility that could have given them health problems — such as garbage dumps or waste sites, nuclear power plants, or polluted rivers?
See What Makes Your Mom Tick
Another important chat to have with mom may have nothing to do with her health per se — but rather, about taking the time to find out more about who she is as a person, which may help you feel closer to her and establish more of an adult friendship in addition to the mother-daughter bond you’ve always had. “No matter how close with your mom you think you are, there’s probably a lifetime of thoughts, feelings, and situations she’s experienced that you know nothing about,” says Wittenberg. And knowing more about her will not only provide great stories, laughs, and memories you can tuck away and share with your own kids one day, it could also give you insight into why she reacts to things the way she does.
Ask about: What makes you happiest? Do you have any big regrets in life? What made you fall (and stay) in love with my dad or your current partner? What are your hopes for me and my family?
Learn About Her Childhood
What were your parents’ favorite childhood hobbies? Best school subjects? What kind of antics did they get into with their siblings or cousins? If these questions don’t instantly drum up stories or memories for you, it’s time to ask your mom and dad about them. “Hearing your parents’ stories is important in terms of bonding, and it can also provide clues about your own kids’ potential strengths,” says Wittenberg. Perhaps your mother was passionate about dancing and wanted to be a ballerina while growing up; your own daughter could exhibit similar traits you’ll want to nurture.
Ask about: What was your favorite thing to do after school? What did you dream of doing or “being” when you grew up? Who did you most look up to in the world?
There was a funny blunder in this episode. Then within seconds of my show finishing here in California we had an earthquake. My computer desk was swaying, lights were moving, my daughters bed was moving. Maybe I just had a very strong blogtalkradio show that shook the earth? Lol I hope you enjoy the show.
Here is the information from Janette from tonight’s show:
Here is the information from Janette Dalgliesh per last night’s radio show:
Kim Falconer – my favorite LOA-astrologer by a long shot – has her blog at http://kimfalconer.wordpress.com (and yes, she’s also a successful SF author who writes fabulous books rich in LOA!). For anyone seeking a reading with Kim, the info is at http://www.falconastrology.com/readings_astrology_reports.htm
Eve Gregory – does work around connecting with inner guidance – http://evagregory.com
For numerology I’d recommend a reading with Janette! http://sweetreliefcoaching.com/numerology-loa/
Are you a care-giver holding resentment on the person you care for? Come join me in this intimate discussion with the Nationwide Holistic Health & Wellness Coalition for their Mental Health Awareness Campaign.
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While severe sadness is the most well-known symptom of depression, knowing how to recognize other signs can help head off a future depressive episode.
If you’re one of the 20 million people in America with depression, you know that it’s not a condition to be taken lightly. It’s important to manage symptoms of depression with therapy and medication as prescribed by your doctor, both to feel better now and to reduce the risk of a depressive episode in the future.
One of the best ways to minimize the physical and emotional damage of an episode of depression is to recognize depression early and take action — which can mean getting back on track with treatment or talking to your doctor about whether your treatment plan needs to be reviewed and revised. But not all symptoms of depression are easy to identify, and the early signs can be different for everyone. Here are some common symptoms you should look for.
Fatigue or Lack of Energy
We all feel less energetic from time to time, so fatigue on its own isn’t necessarily a symptom of depression or a sign of a depressive episode, says Gabriela Cora, MD, managing partner of the Florida Neuroscience Center and a diplomate of the American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology. “However, if fatigue lingers and is accompanied by low mood and decreased motivation or interest, this lack of energy may be tied to early signs of depression,” she says.
Sleep patterns vary from person to person, so the best way to tell if sleep disturbance is a symptom of recurrent depression is to try to remember how you slept before your depression was well managed. If you slept poorly at that time and are sleeping less now, then this might be a sign of a depressive episode for you. “If you’ve already experienced depression in the past, you want to be sure to address any sleep disturbance that’s different from before,” Dr. Cora says. “It may not be a problem if you can’t sleep well for a couple of nights, particularly if you’re experiencing a lot of stress. But in the absence of a specific trigger, you should watch out for any sleep changes that differ from your normal sleep pattern.”
Sleeping Too Much
It’s also possible to get too much of a good thing, and sleeping too much could be a symptom of depression. Cora says that even for people who are managing depression, the magic number is still eight hours of shuteye. “In general, sleeping more than eight hours every night may not be as healthy,” she says. “If you oversleep and experience a mood that’s low or sad, this may indicate depression.”
Changes in Appetite and Weight
We all tend to overeat or feel loss of appetite from time to time. However, if it’s coupled with other symptoms, such as feeling depressed or losing interest and pleasure in usual or favorite activities for two weeks or more, it could be a sign of a depressive episode, according to Simon Rego, PsyD, director of psychology training at Montefiore Medical Center in the Bronx, N.Y. A weight gain of at least 5 percent of a person’s total body weight in a short period of time (approximately a month) that causes significant distress may be considered part of depression, Dr. Rego says.
Physical pain might be a surprising symptom of depression, but for some people it can be part of a depressive episode. “In some cases, people will visit their physician for vague abdominal pain, untreatable headaches, and aches and pains that don’t seem to go away,” Cora says. “It’s wise for all physicians and practitioners to keep depression in mind.”
Colors Appear Dull
Another surprising symptom of depression is perceiving the world around you as less colorful and less vivid. “Most people state how the quality of colors or music change for them after treatment,” Cora says. “They’ll say, ‘Is this a new picture in your office? I love the bright colors!’ or ‘I love music again. I can appreciate the beauty of it!'” If you feel depressed and life seems subdued, talk to your doctor.
Burnout at Work
If you feel worn out at work, you might be experiencing a depressive episode, “Many people who say they’re stressed and burned out at work are actually feeling depressed,” Cora says. “’Burnout’ is a much more socially-acceptable term than “depression’ is.” Consider how long you’ve been feeling burned out at work — is it just due to a challenging assignment or are the feelings more lingering and long-term? If you feel burned out on a regular basis, it could be a sign of depression.
Most people have problems focusing from time to time — you might be distracted by a family problem or a financial issue that needs to be resolved. But to rule this out as a symptom of depression, make sure your problems with memory or concentration aren’t getting worse. “Sometimes cognitive impairment is so pronounced in depression we call it pseudodementia,” Cora says.
“Social withdrawal is one of the most important symptoms of depression,” says James Overholser, PhD, professor of psychology at Case Western Reserve University in Cleveland, Ohio. “When people feel depressed, they tend to withdraw from normal activities and social interactions,” he says. “Furthermore, if a person becomes suicidal, there’s a greater risk that a suicide attempt would go unnoticed and potentially unstopped. I advise many people to fight hard against the tendency for social withdrawal when feeling depressed.”
If you’re feeling sad, there are three things that determine whether or not it could be linked to depression — intensity, duration, and cause, or more specifically lack of cause. “The sadness of depression stays with you and doesn’t need to have a particular trigger,” Cora says. “Although we can sometimes track specific stressors that trigger first episodes of depression, we can’t necessarily track any subsequent stressors.”
By Wyatt Myers
Medically reviewed by Lindsey Marcellin, MD, MPH