Sound has power in and out of the bedroom, and it’s a crucial part of your communication with your partner.
Whether you are whispering sweet nothings or shouting your love from a mountaintop, there’s no denying theaudible impact on feelings of attraction. Yet even before we hear the content of what someone has to say, our auditory processing draws on biological clues and patterns to determine our attraction reaction. In fact, several studies have shown that the qualities of our voices transmit important details about attraction, health, and fertility to potential partners.
How Low Can He Go
According to research, men with deeper voices are more appealing to women. Studies have shown that with all other physical characteristics being equal, men with deeper voices were rated as more attractive. Perhaps it’s the association with testosterone, which makes the voice more masculine at puberty.
For women, it also turns out their voices are rated as more attractive when they’re most fertile. In some studies, women’s voices were rated as most attractive during ovulation and least attractive during menstruation. For women, voice pitch depends a lot on estrogen, which is the female hormone produced by the ovaries. So, high levels of estrogen result in higher-pitched voices.
And what about accents, speed, and inflection? Studies show that we judge fast talkers as more educated and those with varied inflection as more interesting. Pitch correlates only loosely with height but, as we said above, is closely tied to hormone levels — meaning it’s a good indicator of fertility or dominance, as well as health and attractiveness.
Now That You’ve Found Your “Sound Mate”
Beyond all the science, it’s crucial to close your eyes and listen to your partner. How does his voice make you feel? Words are like invisible hands that arouse the body in unexpected ways. Men especially love to hear the sounds of an enthusiastic partner. And stretching yourself to be more verbal in bed can boost your own arousal. You’re talking yourself toward new heights of sexual satisfaction.
It’s not simply about talking dirty. It’s about finding your comfort zone and expressing what you are feeling and craving. Sex is often off-limits for discussion, which makes it even more provocative once you get comfortable doing it. If you are feeling shy, start out by doing it over the phone or in a moment when you know it can’t go any further, such as when you’re rushing out the door for work in the morning.
Then move on to saying it while in bed. If you start judging yourself or feeling silly, mentally push yourself into the moment. What do you want him to do to you right now? Think about the sensations you are feeling in your body. Then tell him! Moan and coo when he does something you enjoy; exclaim when you are feeling pleasure. Pay attention to each other’s breathing and its power to communicate. Chances are he will be inspired by your example.
Make it a point to tune in: Sound is a sensory delight. So turn up the volume for great sex and a great relationship!
Source: Dr. Laura Berman